My husband Jon and I dated for a long time before we were married.  He tells friends that our courtship was extended because  it took me so long just to choose the places we ate.  Jon may have a point.  In the early days of our relationship, I was determined that he was the one for me and wanted him to see me in only the most flattering way.  That meant never  being seen under neon, fluorescent, or any kind of restaurant lighting design which might make me look unattractive.   No general plotted a campaign more carefully.  The men I know might think this was silly, but it makes perfect sense to any woman.