In many situations, however, the affair is ultimately discovered and brought to the forefront. If the infidelity is no longer a secret, the primary thing that should be done is to end the cheating spouse affair. All contact with the third party should cease.

This is important if a couple is to survive infidelity. By ending all contact, we do not only signify physical contact, but also emotional contact in the form of emails, phone calls, and letters. When the third party is out of the picture, the couple can focus on the past, present, and future without any new complications and developments.